Over this last weekend, I had a very interesting date with a guy I met from Sexsearch.com. First, as is customary on these posts – I’ll give a bit of a review of that dating website. The site Sexsearch.com is definitely for adults and pretty much only for those adults who are looking to get laid. If you are looking for long walks on the beach, romantic dinners, and a life-partner – don’t look here. If you are looking get down and dirty with another adult who is looking for the same thing – it is one of the better places to look online. It is of course heavy on men – probably 70% men and 30% women, but 30% women is actually a lot on these kinds of sites. If a guy knows what he is doing – he’s virtually guaranteed a date, and probably sex. And women are virtually guaranteed to find a man if they only have a heart beat!

So I normally talk to guys for about 2-3 weeks before actually meeting in person, but the guy I met last night was an exception. We chatted for only about 4-5 days before actually meeting in person. This guy, I’ll call him “Peter M.” was obsessed with the idea of giving me oral sex. I know I know, TOO MUCH INFORMATION. It’s probably because of the amazing photos I sent him, but anyway, that’s another story. We met in a local Starbucks to make sure everything was ok – that he looked like his photos, etc. After some customary small talk, I invited him back to my apartment, got comfortable and…..well, you can guess the rest. This isn’t an x rated site! Overall a pretty solid encounter from Sexsearch.com. If any of you guys want to try the site out – there is a $1 or $2 trial so that you can get the feel of the site before actually deciding to sign up. I highly recommend it if you are looking for adult fun! But please please please – make sure you use protection!

Passionsearch.com is a nice in-between type of site. It’s not just for people looking for sex – and its not just for people looking for serious relationships. Come to think of it – its basically a site for people looking for serious relationship with good sex involved!  My profile on this site attracted a LOT of attention – and over the last couple years – I ended up dating a doctor,  an electrician, and a waiter (in that order!).   All the guys were super fun to spend time with – but as you can guess – not what I was looking for in the long-run.

I’ll tell you what I like and I don’t like about this website.  The only thing I don’t love about passionsearch.com is that I suspect they don’t clean out old profiles when people quit. That means that sometimes, I email people who don’t email me back and I end up wasting time. This is somewhat normal with dating sites – they all want to inflate their member numbers –but its still annoying!

Luckily, there are way more things to like about passionsearch.com.  Mainly, I like the mix of people. I wasn’t joking when I said it is basically a site for sexual type people, who are looking for relationships. After all, if the sex is good, why stop it? Also, I don’t know about the women on it – because I don’t date them – but the men on this site were generally about one level less CREEPY than the guys on most other online dating sites. These type of sites attract plenty of normal and interesting people – but also attract a lot of weirdos.  The normal online dating site might contain 20% weirdos, and 80% ok guys. This site was pretty light on the weirdos – I’d say only about 10% were bizarre, making it easier for me to meet the cool ones.

The site itself is well designed – making it easy to manage your emails and meet people. I was surprised at just how many people were signed up in my area. I live in a medium sized city on the east coast – and my city alone had a couple hundred people – which is enough for me to work with.  Ah – and the best part – online video chat – need I say more?? If you are new to online dating – or even an old hand – you can probably meet someone interesting on this site.  I advise you to just sign up for the $1 or $2 trial, get a feel for the site – and cancel it if you don’t like it. Cmon, you spend $1 a pack of m&m’s… spend it on getting laid!

I tried out Amateurmatch.com a couple of weeks ago, based on the suggestion of one of my fans.  I was actually not impressed by the initial landing page of this site – its very simple – just asking for my basic info so that it can send me a confirmation link by email. But after I gave them my info – I was pretty surprised by the depth and quality of the site. For what it lacks in numbers – other sites certainly have more active members – it makes up for in quality of user experience.

There weren’t so many people in my local area – I’d say around 40 men – but that means that it’s that much more cozy – and people can become familiar with each other faster.  I happened to meet a pretty decent guy who I added into my rotation of men. He was ehhh…. a bit younger than me (by 4 years), but I couldn’t complain.  Most of the guys on amateurmatch.com, at least in my area – were about 24-30 years old… but I normally prefer men who are 30-45. This was one of the only problems I experienced on the site.

There is a free option on amatuermatch.com where you can send a certain number of emails before you have to become a paid member. This is a pretty unusual feature, as they normally require you to pay something before you start contacting members. Due to this feature – I highly recommend it to guy who are new to online dating – or just want to try it out for free.  The initial amateurmatch.com account is free – so you have nothing to lose except a little bit of time.  So, head on over and create a free account! Why not??

This was another item forwarded to me by a fan (thanks Doug!!).  Apparently there is this guy who calls himself Walker (cool name) who purports to be an expert at online dating, and wants to teach guys how to get laid by women they meet online. I watched his 5 minute intro video and everything he said makes sense. He wrote a blueprint of exactly what to do, and what to say to create attraction online.  I gave my email address to him, and he has now sent me the “Walker System” by email. Here’s what I think of it:

1. His tips to total profile manipulation are DEAD SPOT ON! It’s actually pretty scary that there is a guy out there teaching men exactly how to manipulate women, just by making a few simple tweaks to their online profiles.  One technique he suggests, which I admit would work on me – is to treat the profile as a joke – suggesting to women that you don’t need their approval.  In his system, he talks about his most successful online dating profile he ever created – which for activities he enjoys says only, “eating glass, jumping up and down, and surgery”.
2. He suggests techniques for online chatting which I also think are pretty effective. It’s so sad that women are so easily manipulated – and one day I hope women will become smarter about these techniques –but now – sadly – women have no chance against Walker’s methods.  He reports that he just leaves online chats at certain strategic moments (as in leaves the computer), and doesn’t return for 10 minutes, 1 hour, or sometimes even 36 hours.  Knowing at which time one should abandon an online chat, and for how long is pretty powerful information. I know it sounds strange, but I agree with him that leaving the online chat at a strategic moment can create amazing attraction.

There are a lot of other things he discusses in his system that I feel are valuable to both beginners and experienced guys. The best part of it is that he is giving it away for free, this month only. His idea is to create a huge buzz for the Walker System online, and then sell it for $97. So at this time, it’s still free. Read it and learn, guys! Find it at www.thewalkersystem.com.

I’m not ONLY on adult dating sites – I also enjoy meeting regular men who aren’t total perverts. One of the better sites out there which is for meeting people to have a real relationship – is perfectmatch.com.  This site has a psychologist working for it who designed the initial questionnaire you fill out – to maximize the chances of finding someone you are actually interested in.  The joining process takes just a few minutes – and the best part is that a basic account is totally FREE. If you don’t have an account there already, and you are even a little serious about meeting someone for a serious relationship – why not sign up? You have nothing to lose.

I don’t have a juicy story to share about a guy I met from this site. I used it about a year ago and met a guy who I became pretty good friends with – but nothing romantic. Maybe a slut like me should stick to adult dating sites?! So instead of telling you another juicy story – I’ll tell you about what makes this site so interesting to me.

Most online dating websites are just platforms which leave the members to fend for themselves.  But as I said earlier, Perfectmatch.com is run by Dr. Petter Schwartz -a psychologist who is a relationship expert. An important part of the website is the forum section, where Dr. Schwartz actively participates, helping members with all of their dating related questions. A lot of the people on that site are new to online dating, so they have questions that I thought were pretty stupid and I gotta think Dr. Schwartz did too – but she answered them seriously, and in a dignified way. Since the basic account has a lot of functionality on that site, and is totally FREE – I recommend it to a lot of my single friends. If you don’t meet someone important there – you’ve lost nothing other than 10 minutes setting up a profile. You probably spent longer than that today on the toilet!! So… go sign up for a free account!